What is a hair fetish like for men?
This article was written by Mr Haircut Fetish, known as thecreativemoose eleswhere
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For this article, we will now be exploring how the hair fetish works for men and some of the ways that it can differ.
As mentioned in the previous article, this particular kink is very much male-dominated, making it somewhat overwhelming for women to be entering the community. However, as a man, this is something that I have a bit more authority on discussing and can hopefully provide nuanced insight into the male take on hair fetishism.
Firstly, there is an elephant in the room. Why would a heterosexual male be interested in cutting the hair of a woman and also giving them, what is often described as a masculine haircut? I want you to ruminate on this question for a moment because the very nature of it is wrong yet, it is something that I can honestly say would be said by a male that had just found out about this kink. To explain this further, I want to tell a small story. In 2013, Australian prime minister Julia Gillard was interviewed for radio and was belligerently told that her husband was gay because he was a hairdresser. Not only is this comment deeply stereotypical and offensive to the wider gay community but also sets a precedent around this kink for men. The reason why I bring this up is that it is something that has been personally levied against me. It is such an absurd notion that heterosexual men, who are interested in shaving and haircutting have underlying homosexual tendencies. The fact is that this particular fetish is experienced by both straight and gay men and has no sexuality ties at all.
It’s attitudes like this that can make it hard for some men to even be comfortable talking about their fetish with people outside of the community. There is a real worry of becoming the butt of some stupid joke or being laughed at and made to feel small. Having a fetish like this can challenge the current narrative of what it is like to be masculine, with hair and hairdressing being seen as something feminine. Case in point, I have had female friends tell me, that they would only get a haircut from a guy if they were gay. Hinting at some underlying notions about men taking advantage. A disappointing statement but one that sadly has some truth as more and more we hear about dangerous men abusing positions. Statements like that though have real power in making it difficult for some men to come to terms with their kink.
While we have discussed that this kink can be particularly difficult for women, some unique challenges face men too. Most notably, there are a lot more of them compared to women. This is something that is not limited to the world of hair fetish kink and is documented occurrence in online dating. This can make it hard for some men to stand out from the crowd and show off their uniqueness when discussing these matters. But, I want to focus on a uniquely male social issue in the community that was touched upon in the previous piece of writing. How we are talking to the women of our community. Because while some are respectful, we need to do better. As previously mentioned, this is very much a social issue that exists outside these realms but is still no less important. Treating women with the respect that they have the right to is only natural and demanding things of them is not okay. Yes, they might not have got that bald shave that you thought they might get, but being mean about it to them after overcoming a big hurdle is not cool.
We should be building women up and helping them to feel welcome in our world, not pushing them away. This can also do massive harm to those men that are being respectful, by making us all look bad. But there is hope, as improvements are being made and discussions about this are happening, I created a post on Fetlife a while ago, criticizing the behaviors of some men in the community. We are on the right track to being better. These kinds of behavior are unique to men and showcase the kinds of toxicity that can cause the same men hurt and shame. We can be called weird and creeps, making us out to deviants, in need of being placed on a register somewhere. In reality though, sometimes men can feel challenged in ways that bruise our masculine pride. It’s no excuse for the kinds of behavior that some men present but, it is still something that could be a part of bringing it out.
But when it comes to how we sexually explore this kink, it can not be more different. Many of the men that experience this fetish are ones that like to be in control or the case of the haircutting fetish, the ones doing the cutting. This control is one of the key things that a lot of male fetishists crave, with many self-identifying as being the dom archetype. This control gives them the ability to maneuver the scenario into whatever direction they wish, to receive gratification. The sense of power that male fetishists have over their partners’ hair is huge, as they know that this is not something that will disappear tomorrow. The participant will have to deal with what happens and that is what provides some of the satisfaction. This kink can play host to many others, with a BDSM and Sub/Dom relationships being something that can be easily integrated. Punishment haircuts, haircuts for ownership, asserting dominance and control, haircuts for sexual awakening, there are many ways they can be incorporated. It can also be the other way around with some men preferring to be on the receiving end of the clippers or being the ones told what to do for a haircut. Being dominant in hair is not just restricted to males. Long hair worship is also a massive part of the community, with many men fawning over long hair and ready to look after it. Brushing and washing are services offered by these men, in order to help maintain their play partners’ locks. Also mentioned, this is not just limited to men on women, men on men is a thing too and a growing part of the community.
To wrap up, guys we have a wonderful community that we need to look after, its niche and out there for some but it’s ours! Let’s keep it a safe place to be for everyone and keep it kinky!
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This article is subject to change and will be updated with alterations made based on community feedback.
